Courting is a relationship between a man and a woman, determining if it is in God’s will for them to marry. Courting is not the same as dating because when it comes to courting both the man and the woman are courtship involves goals and seeks help from parents, mentors, or someone that is married.
Courting avoids temptation. It sets boundaries between the two. Undersand that if you decide to court with a man or a woman. Now there are rules when it comes to courting, I will only talk about a few:
- The man initiates the courting. Just like a man pursues a woman, the woman should chase after the man. If a man feels like God is leading him to a specific woman then the man has to get permission from the father of the woman. Now I know that some guys would not do that.
- The couple should get to know each other families. Getting to know each other families. It is important to know each other families because you will need their support.
- Avoid defrauding. Do not stir up desires while you are courting because the temptations will come. Ladies when you are courting with a man dress modestly because the clothes that you wear can tempt a man. Guys no improper touching. Guard your heart.
- Accountability is important. Having mentors is important because they will help the couples stay on track. As I mentioned before the couple parents can be a mentor as the couple support team and guiding them.
Courting should be taken seriously and God needs to be first. I know some people that are courting and I believe that it is a great thing to do. Nowadays you would not hear a lot of people say that they are courting. In this generation it seems to be all about just jumping right into a relationship and then from then on going right into the next one, once that one is over. People do not really take time to really get to know someone. I mean there are some people who does take the time to know someone but it takes more than several weeks to get to really know someone.
Courting is different from dating. When you are courting you are typically dating but you are focused on that one particular man or woman. Also, the family is involved but when it comes to dating people secretly hide their relationship and there is no goals set. Courting is a step towards marriage. Remember that courting is a choice.